Showing posts with label Black American. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Black American. Show all posts

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Does Having A Relaxer In My Hair Erase My Blackness?

                                             Image Courtesy Of Pixabay

First, I want to say that my hair is natural.  It is natural because I suffer from Alopecia, so I decided to keep it in its natural state.  Months ago, my daughter and I, had a conversation about natural hair due to the fact that she has worn it natural for a while and she asked me whether having a permanent relaxer would erase the fact that she was a black woman who is proud of her heritage.  I told her no because our experience will never let us forget who we are.

My daughter finally decided to get her hair relaxed and she does find it to be more manageable.  The truth and the fact are ladies, we hear no one question men about their hair or anything else, but we are quickly put under a microscope and examined about our reasons for doing anything.

I am proud of the natural hair movement, but we also have to let our ladies know that their hair should look well kept.  I see so many beautiful ladies with gorgeous natural hair but will keep it real and say that there are other ladies who don't keep their natural hair looking its best.  We have to take the time to keep our hair moisturized and put into attractive styles.  We know that when we had that permanent relaxer we tried to keep our hair curled or in a nice ponytail.

It takes the same effort to create a pretty hairstyle with natural hair.  Our blackness doesn't have anything to do with the way we style our hair.  We will always be known as black women and I say rock any hairstyle that you want without explanations.

Also, I am not telling you to rush out and get a relaxer but I am telling you that nothing will change our experience.  

Monday, March 13, 2017

A Lot Of Us Are Told To Go Back To Africa (Commentary)


As Black Americans, we have been told on numerous occasions to go back to Africa.  Today I am going to make an assessment of that statement.  Throughout my life, I have known many African people and a lot of us don't really know the truth.  The truth is, we do not have a homeland.  We tend to think that if things do not work out in America, we can just gather up our families and head to the Continent of Africa and we will be welcomed with open arms.  This could be further from the truth because the truth is, we can visit but we are not really wanted in Africa.  We are thought of as dumb, lazy and being a burden in Africa.

We are not really thought of as Ancestors of the African people.  I had a conversation about this with a friend of mines and people in Africa like to point out the fact that we are mixed race and that we do not truly have African blood.  We have to realize that we are in America but we are treated as we don't belong and it is the same way in Africa.  Many years ago, I would hear people say that they would gladly go back but really what are you going back to?  Are you ready to be talked down to and treated inferior by your own people?  

Of course, we are not in America by choice but since we are here, it is time for us to plant our feet firmly on the ground and take our rightful place and learn as much as we can and grow.  I do not usually do these kinds of post on this blog but I was led to do so and I use the term African American very loosely because Africa isn't our home.

We are absolutely not immigrants and it is going to take a big change of our mindset to effect a renewing of our spirits to live right and bring our families up with the fear of the Lord.  He is the only one that we can turn to, to break the cycle of lack, disrespecting our minds and our bodies and stagnation.  I was always told that there are many secrets and they are in books and a lot of us miss it because we do not read books enough.  

People come to America and they like to use us for our citizenship because they think that we are stupid.  Just think about it for a minute, they want to use us because we have something valuable. There are many things wrong in America and we face a lot of injustice but again think about it.  Another black person wants to use you for something that we take for granted.  Do you really think that other races want to see the African man or woman in America?  Heck no!  But they will give them a chance because of their mind and hunger to make it in America by working hard and educating themselves.

Let's make America work for us, and it will not be easy but go to the Library and learn all you can.  They cannot steal your knowledge.   Educate yourself formally but you can also do it informally for free.