Showing posts with label hair. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hair. Show all posts

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Does Having A Relaxer In My Hair Erase My Blackness?

                                             Image Courtesy Of Pixabay

First, I want to say that my hair is natural.  It is natural because I suffer from Alopecia, so I decided to keep it in its natural state.  Months ago, my daughter and I, had a conversation about natural hair due to the fact that she has worn it natural for a while and she asked me whether having a permanent relaxer would erase the fact that she was a black woman who is proud of her heritage.  I told her no because our experience will never let us forget who we are.

My daughter finally decided to get her hair relaxed and she does find it to be more manageable.  The truth and the fact are ladies, we hear no one question men about their hair or anything else, but we are quickly put under a microscope and examined about our reasons for doing anything.

I am proud of the natural hair movement, but we also have to let our ladies know that their hair should look well kept.  I see so many beautiful ladies with gorgeous natural hair but will keep it real and say that there are other ladies who don't keep their natural hair looking its best.  We have to take the time to keep our hair moisturized and put into attractive styles.  We know that when we had that permanent relaxer we tried to keep our hair curled or in a nice ponytail.

It takes the same effort to create a pretty hairstyle with natural hair.  Our blackness doesn't have anything to do with the way we style our hair.  We will always be known as black women and I say rock any hairstyle that you want without explanations.

Also, I am not telling you to rush out and get a relaxer but I am telling you that nothing will change our experience.  

Saturday, October 31, 2015

How I learned to live with hairloss.

                                      How I learned how to live with hairloss.

When i first realized that i was losing my hair, i was in my twenties.  I was combing and brushing my hair and it was getting thinner and thinner.  I was devastated because i didn't know the exact cause.
At the time, wigs weren't very popular for younger people.  I used to wear long draw string ponytails and the top of my head was showing streaks on my scalp.

I went to the library and researched and tried a lot of home remedies and i spent a lot of money and time searching for a miracle.  With each remedy i quickly grew tired of not seeing any results.  I would see all these products geared towards African American hair and the labels would say miracle this, fast grow, hair food this or that and etc.

A lot of companies are profiting off desperate people looking for a miracle and answers.  I went to Dermatologist to see if there was anything that could be done and they ran many test.  They came back with the results and said that i had Androgenetic  Alopecia. The Doctor asked me whether i had any women in my family who had major hair loss and said that i didn't know any.

I was prescribed ointments and creams and i didn't see any results.  The Doctor then recommended that i start using 2% Minoxidil  and i started to buy it and i saw a little thin fuzz but nothing major and it was getting to be very expensive.  The Dermatologist told me that if i stop using it, i would continue to see hair loss and the little fuzz would be gone also.

My faith was gone and i felt desperate.  At that point i decided that i wasn't going to be a Guinea Pig any longer and i was going to go to the wig shop and start looking for suitable wigs.  I really didn't know what kind of wig to get and i tried some on and they didn't feel right for me.

I went to another wig shop and there was a really nice lady working in there and she said "They look different on when they are styled"  I told her that i didn't know that they could be thinned out and styled and she took me over to her booth with the wig that i tried on in hand and she said " I only charge $5.00 to style it."  I let this wonderful lady thin out and shape that wig and it looked beautiful and she really changed my life.

From that day on, i was able to go in the Beauty Supply Stores and pick wigs out and let it be styled or pick some that didn't have to be styled and it really changed the way that i felt about myself.  I had been praying for a miracle and it didn't come the way that i wanted but God made a way out of no way.  He gave me a covering and a belief that he would provide if  i would let him.

Now, wigs are not only a covering but it is a way that i express myself and i just love it.